This is not social media news, Mashable. Can we all agree that…

This is not social media news, Mashable.

Can we all agree that anything with James Cameron is NOT social media news?




As part of the lead up to Social Network Purging Day, I found this bit of genius.  Sometimes you can’t purge someone completely, but you can put them in the Cone of Ignorance and ignore them.

Avoidr lets you secretly designate certain Foursquare friends as jerks, asshats, clowns, tramps, and douchelords.  Then, it will tell you where they are so you can avoid them.

Think of it as a less creepy version of Please Rob Me.  It’s another Anti-Social Media method to make your life simpler and less cluttered with negative people.



Another year comes, and all the geeks of the world jizz their pants for South by Southwest Interactive. It’s the spring break for geeks, a moment for all the technology nerds to get together and learn from one another and descend upon the city of Austin.

While I am admittedly bitter because I cannot attend, another part of me questions all the madness that goes on with the conference.  I see my friends tweet nearly everything from a panel.  I see the same quote tweeted 6 different ways, making me scrape out what I think the real quote is.  Then, I wonder what is the point of them paying to go to the conference and learn this information.  Because that’s the point of going to the conference.  To learn new tools, techniques and tips to make yourself or your employer more money.

While I love sharing and learning new information, there comes a point where blogging, tweeting and live-streaming every last thing turns into information overload.  Worse, why did you pay for all that knowledge, if you were just going to throw it out into the internet where anyone can use it?  I’m all for sharing, but there comes a point where you need to decide what’s worth sharing and gaining new connections versus what information to keep to yourself that you can use to monetize.

Another thing that drives me nuts about SXSW: the parties.  While I am all about a great party and having fun, if I was paying for a social media manager to attend SXSW, I’d kill them if I knew my money was going to pay for them to drink away everything they learned last night.

Again, this could just be my jaded point of view since I’ve never been there.  But, if this much information is leaking to me via the internet, the actual chaos down there must be maddening.

I will continue to stay indoors, away from conferences, waiting patiently for The Great Purger to come to all good boys and girls who have cleaned up their internet lives on Social Network Purging Day.


Social Network Purging Day

Social Network Purging Day:

My friend Marcie Barnes pointed out Social Network Purging Day to me the other day. While the domain name (http://purgingday.com) was not the best choice, I couldn’t agree more with the idea.  I wish I had thought of it first, so I could claim the glory. Since I did not though, I will whole-hardedly promote it.

I plan on throwing a small party the day of the 20th. For Social Network Purging Day Eve, I’ll make my list and check it twice to see who’s been naughty, and who’s been nice, and I’ll have an airing of grievances.

Have any other ideas on how we can celebrate this holiday?


Contest Winners!

I’ve learned about social media contests: you’re more likely to win if you enter.  I should know, last year I won an a Nintendo DS game, an iPod Nano, free food, free fair rides, and a bunch of other crap just by tweeting something.  If I can do it, anyone can, and you’re more likely to get something cool like an iPad.

So, to teach everyone the valuable lesson to actually try, I held a contest here.  Since there were only two entries, I’m going to award each entrant with the first prize: a $10 iTunes Gift Card.  That’s $20 in prizes someone else could have easily won.  Aren’t you jealous?

Congrats to Jennifer and Christine Choi.  I’ll be contacting you to send you your fabulous prizes.  Enjoy your new ability to download an album or TV show you’ve been dying for.


These are not social media news, Mashable.Twice in one day, by…

This is not social media news.

This isn’t social media news either.

These are not social media news, Mashable.

Twice in one day, by the same author?  Ouch.

Alright readers, which of these Mashable posts has less to do with social media and why?  Funniest answer in the comments (as chosen by me by Midnight, March 12, 2010) gets a surprise.


Why you can’t really know people just from the internet

I read this article by Johnny B. Truant about how you can know someone through their postings on the Internet, and I thought, “No, no, this is all wrong.”

While I am known here for my wit and humor, you might be surprised I’m actually not a horribly bitter and angry person.  I smile!  I laugh!  I’m even dorkier than I let on!

The window internet lets us only see so much of a personality.  Sure, we can learn about what a person thinks through his/her writing, or their speech mannerisms through video and audio, but there’s only so much you can learn about them in these ways.  You cannot get the sense of what they are like when they put their guard down, when they know the whole world isn’t watching.  Some of it will be the same, but some of it will be completely different.

We don’t always have to be “on.”  It’s draining, it’s false, and no one benefits.  Social media is great to communicate so many things instantly, but at the end of the day when you have to sell yourself, you have to make sure you’re the polished version that attracts people to you.

Jay Dolan the person is different from Jay Dolan the Anti-Social Media writer. I’m OK with that.  I can’t be a hateful, humorous internet troll all the time.  You can’t always be whatever makes up your online persona either.

We are more than what we put on the internet.  We are more than any blog article, podcast, or Youtube video.  At the end of the day, when you’ve shut off the computer and smartphone, you have yourself and your soul.  Those are how people really come to know you.


I hate liking.

I hate the “like” button on Facebook.  It is an unnecessary feature that adds no real value to what you post online.  You like something?  Great.  But what value does that add?  What does it tell me?

The absolute worst part is when I see something like this:

Jane: Oh No! My dog Buster died last night!”

  • Bob likes this.

What’s there to like about a dead dog?  What type of sick person are you that you revel in someone’s pain like that?  Can’t you be bothered to type any type of condolence message?

It’s not hard to type “I’m so sorry.”  It’s not awful to pick up the phone and call someone.  But it’s so easy to “like” something on Facebook.  You click, and BAM! it’s there.

The easy accessibility of the like button is part of what makes it so awkward.  Also, there’s no way of keeping track of what you liked.  The button screams I cared enough to burn a quarter of a calorie for you.

God help us if they ever make a dislike button.  For now though, I’ll campaign to get rid of the like button in favor of making real social connections.