I read this article by Johnny B. Truant about how you can know someone through their postings on the Internet, and I thought, “No, no, this is all wrong.”
While I am known here for my wit and humor, you might be surprised I’m actually not a horribly bitter and angry person. I smile! I laugh! I’m even dorkier than I let on!
The window internet lets us only see so much of a personality. Sure, we can learn about what a person thinks through his/her writing, or their speech mannerisms through video and audio, but there’s only so much you can learn about them in these ways. You cannot get the sense of what they are like when they put their guard down, when they know the whole world isn’t watching. Some of it will be the same, but some of it will be completely different.
We don’t always have to be “on.” It’s draining, it’s false, and no one benefits. Social media is great to communicate so many things instantly, but at the end of the day when you have to sell yourself, you have to make sure you’re the polished version that attracts people to you.
Jay Dolan the person is different from Jay Dolan the Anti-Social Media writer. I’m OK with that. I can’t be a hateful, humorous internet troll all the time. You can’t always be whatever makes up your online persona either.
We are more than what we put on the internet. We are more than any blog article, podcast, or Youtube video. At the end of the day, when you’ve shut off the computer and smartphone, you have yourself and your soul. Those are how people really come to know you.